Thursday, January 8, 2009

The fat lady never sings.

Morals and Ethics

Ever since women get wrapped up in their never ending desire to become thinner than they already are, they have been asking their husbands, boyfriends, sons, brothers, friends this question that is probably first asked by the first cavewoman after eating her mammoth steak. “Darling, do you think I look fat?” A wrong answer probably leads to the poor caveman being clubbed by his wife to death. Perhaps the survival of Cro-Magnum men over Neanderthal men is due to their ability to lie. Neanderthal men are all too bloody honest (Or dumb) and therefore, clubbed to extinction.

Today, modern man has faced great adversaries, conquering diseases, conquered continents, conquering space and distance. We created the atomic bomb, launched Satellites, invented laser weapons.

Yet time and time again, everyman, from presidents to the common blue-collar workers have been faced with the question they dread the most after “when are you going to marry me?” The reason could be that “Darling, do you think I look fat?” is in fact a question without any right answers at all. How a woman ask this question usually starts like this, she would be admiring herself in the mirror, while buying a new shirt or something, and she comes out and ask you if she looks fat. And she will add this “Baby, I want you to be totally honest with me.”

Now this is the tricky part.

I try to think of various scenarios that will happen for you.

1) Assuming that she is fat, you tell her the truth, she becomes unhappy, and is angry with you openly. This is still okay.
2) If you tell her the truth, she becomes unhappy, and will give you silence treatment all the way. This is tricky, I suggestion using chocolate sundaes to warm her up again.
3) She is fat, you tell her a lie and try to reassure her she isn’t fat. She doesn’t believe you and is angry because you won’t tell her the truth.
4) She is fat, you convince her she is thin, and happily, she decided to get the dress, and continue eating until she gains more weight or can’t fit into the dress, as she looks like a over-ripe tomato about to burst in it. She blames you for it also.
5) You convinced her that the dress makes everyone look chubby in it, she won’t be reassured also, and wonder if she should diet to make herself thinner. She forces you to eat less and diet with her.
6) She is thin, she looks good in the dress. If you are very very lucky, you would get through this stage without difficulty. Perhaps only 20% of men can get choice 6, but even then, you are not totally safe yet. She may think that you are lying, and the whole cycle begins again.

There is also this question we must ask ourselves, is it morally and ethically right to tell your girlfriend/wife/friends a lie? If so, who are you telling the lie for, for their sake, or to save your own skin?

Definition of morals and ethics to my understanding is that morals is understand what is right or wrong, while ethics is the study of morality. We all have a conscience and we learn morals, from our parents, friends, and society in the end. What I learned from my uncles and father is that sometimes it is better to tell your wife a white lie than to hear her nagging. Reason is actually quite simple, she will be happier without hearing the truth, and your ears will have peace. It makes life a bit more bearable. Morally, I guess it is okay.

According to Socrates, any person who knows what is truly right will automatically do it. While he correlated knowledge with virtue, he similarly equated virtue with happiness. The truly wise man will know what is right, do what is good and therefore be happy. Each individual has a core of underlying values that contribute to our system of beliefs, ideas and/or opinions. Integrity in the application of a value ensures its continuity and this continuity separates a value from beliefs, opinion and ideas. In this context a value (e.g., Truth or Equality or Greed) is the core from which we operate or react. It is likely that Plato believed that virtue was, in fact, a single thing, and that this enumeration was created by others in order to better define virtue. In Protagoras and Meno, he states that the separate virtues can't exist independently, and offers as evidence the contradictions of acting with wisdom (prudence), yet in an unjust way, or acting with bravery (fortitude), yet without wisdom (prudence). (This entire chunk here is taken from the internet)

In accordance with the previous paragraph, in layman’s terms, acting with wisdom but in an unjust manner, an example could be, you tell your wife that she is thin, to save your own skin. This is wisdom, but morally you are telling a lie, which also meant that you are lacking in “truthfulness”.

Acting with bravery yet without wisdom, is you telling your wife the truth, that her butt reminds you of national geographical channel while they are showcasing rhinos special that day. This is very brave of you indeed, sir, but you are bloody goddamn stupid.

If I had to say, I would be more inclined to state that ethically, you should be correct also, to prevent grief to both parties, but this is only my piece of view. :)

Friday, January 2, 2009

The odds of you finding your dream guy/girl

Today while having a walk with my brother, we had a casual conversation on the odds of finding our dream girl. It suddenly strikes me to come out with a new mathematic formula to determine the percentage of us finding our dream girl/guy.

It is in fact, extremely simple. For example, we will now choose to use a lady for demostration. We will call her Miss X, as we have to protect the interviewee's identity.

Miss X when questioned on her ideal dream ma, came out with a number of criteria that seemed extremely reasonable.


2)can cook

3)sensitive,mature,sincere,great sense of character

4)have substance/ambitious


6)someone trustable



9)cannot be crude

Using her dream traits, I decided to assign them a random variable, one that is as close to the real percentage as possible and checked with her if the numbers are to her satisfaction, to ensure that I am not biased.

1)sporty 50%
2)can cook 30%
3)sensitive,mature,sincere,great sense of character 30%
4)have substance/ambitious 30%
5)humour 50%
6)someone trustable 20%
7)chemistry 25%
8)kind-hearted 25%
9)cannot be crude 50%

50% meaning that 50 out of 100 guys are sporty. 30% meaning that 30 out of 100 guys can cook and so forth.

To get the odds that shows her ideal man, we can do this
50/100*30/100*30/100*30/100*50/100*20/100*25/100*25/100*50/100=0.0000421875 rounding off to 0.00004 or 4 out of 10000. And an interesting point of this observation is that Miss X is actually has quite low-expectation for her dream guy. I know many girls that has much higher expectations like having a car, rich, tall, romantic etc.

Okay, now is time to calculate the odds for a normal hetrosexual man. I will just be fair here, I will throw in two traits that is compulsary, a great figure and a beautiful face.( guys fall in love thru their eyes. girls fall in love thru their ears--wise words from Miss X )

1)beautiful 25%
2)great figure 35%
3)can cook 10%
4)intellegent 30%
5)kind-hearted 30%
6)chemistry 25%
7)humour 35%

After calculations, the odds I got are 0.00006890625 or rounded off to 7 in 10000.

This probably is an indication of man having lower expectations compared to woman. Also just a word, the guy who was interviewed intially gave me alot less traits compared to the woman, I just added in a few to balance it out abit more.